Did you find a sling yet? We found the Maya Wrap too difficult, but we loved the simpler styles like "Chic Papoose". We also used one from a company called "Walking Rock Farm" and it was great, because it's adjustable and easy to put on and use. My husband slept with our newborn (who was 6 lbs, 2 oz at birth) in the sling (safely, sitting up in chair). I would recommend finding a sling that comes in two sizes and getting one for you and one for your husband. I think the "Peanut Shell" comes in multiple sizes, but I don't have experience with those. I agree, Babywearer is a good place to check out!