Saturday, October 14, 2006

My brother called tonight. Something he rarely does. Generally, when their name shows up on caller ID, it's because they have some sort of tech question.

Tonight he called to tell me that his wife is pregnant again. Until very recently, she was adamant that she wanted no more children. She had a daughter with her first husband and a son with my brother. She was done. But then when she met my lowercase, I noticed she was holding him quite a bit, cuddling with him, patting his back to help him sleep. And then I heard that her brother's wife was expecting again. And my SIL? Is very much the type who loves to be the center of attention. My brother has always wanted many, many children and was somewhat disappointed that he wouldn't have any more.

And it was strange. I told my brother congratulations. I told my sister-in-law "Congratulations. Or I'm sorry. Take your pick. You know...whichever you think you feel," because the entire time I was on the phone she was saying she didn't know what she thought, didn't know if she was happy or upset...just that she was in the situation and since she would never consider abortion, the situation was what it was.

I don't know. I think she treats her daughter very well. I think she is mean to her 4 year old son. I'm happy for my brother...just not sure about the person he picked to mother his children.

And then I realize that I'm the only person in my family who didn't get to have the happy normal pregnancy and delivery. And there she is...not sure how she feels about it. Having her third child. And I will likely never have another.

Somehow it doesn't seem right.

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