So, you all know that the mister and I have been on different pages in regards to ever having more children. Last week, while in Connecticut, he said to a co-worker who complimented our beautiful and well-behaved child (hahahahaha -- she caught us on a good day!) that he didn't think we'd have another one any time soon but that he was sure we would at some point. He smiled and said, "I'm sure she'll talk me into it."
Later that evening he said that if it weren't for the fact that our families would never speak to us again if we put them through the whole high-risk pregnancy followed by serious NICU time another time that maybe the discussion would be different.
So...I kind of sent a message to an RE with the general history of my four pregnancies, the outcomes, the vertical incision c-section. And today he answered my questions. He said that while he wouldn't tell me I couldn't have another successful pregnancy nor that I wouldn't carry as far or farther than I did with the lowercase, he also felt that a gestational carrier would be a very viable option and one that would present the lowest risk for all involved.
And of course we have insurance now that covers IVF procedures and meds. The only thing it wouldn't cover is the fee to pay a carrier -- that's some serious cash that we just don't have -- and her medical expenses.
But assuming we can find a volunteer and her insurance would cover the bills on her side without any surrogacy exclusions...
Then maybe, just maybe, we could have another baby (or two).